If Someone Close...has a problem with alcohol
or other drugs
People experiencing alcohol and other drug
problems often feel they hurt only themselves. That isn't true.
They also hurt their families, friends, coworkers, employers,
and others. Experience shows that for every person with an
alcohol or other drug problem, at least four others are affected
by their behavior.
You are in a good position to help your
relative because you know a good deal about their unique
qualities and their way of life. And having made the effort to
gain some understanding of the signs and effects of problem
drinking or other drug abuse, you should be in a better position
to consider a strategy for helping.
Be active, get involved. Don't be afraid to
talk about the problem honestly and openly. It is easy to be too
polite, or to duck the issue. But it isn't polite or considerate
to let someone destroy their family and life. You may need to be
persistent to break through any denial they have.
You also may need to let them know how much
courage it takes to ask for help, or to accept it. You will find
that most people with drinking- or other drug-related troubles
really want to talk it out if they find out you are concerned
about them.
To begin, you may need to reject certain myths
that in the past have done great harm to alcoholics and other
drug abusers and hampered those who would help them. These
untruths come from ingrained public attitudes that see
alcoholism and other drug problems as personal misconduct, moral
weakness, or even sin. They are expressed in such declarations
as, "Nothing can be done unless the alcohol or drug abuser wants
to stop," or "They must hit bottom," that is, lose health, job,
home, family, "before they will want to get well." These
stubborn myths are not true, and have been destructive. Would we
say, that you cannot treat cancer or tuberculosis until the
gross signs of disease are visible to all?
The truth is that with alcohol and other drug
problems, as with other kinds of acute and chronic illness,
early recognition, intervention and treatment is
essential -- and rewarding.